When communication fails and conflict prevails, professional help can make a difference.
A couple is a fragile and profoundly meaningful organism, as complex and paradoxical as the most mysterious riddle. In a relationship, nobody wins if anyone is losing. There are no rights or wrongs, but two separate perspectives co-existing and co-creating one another all the time. Each party’s role is constantly being moulded by the assumptions and beliefs of the other. Additionally, social, cultural, biological and spiritual influences present the two people in love with even more perspectives to juggle.
Particular dynamics of relationships in a couple are manifesting hidden narratives, which in turn contribute to shaping the interpersonal experience. The system or the constellation that gives the context to a couple influences individual fears and hopes. When the story of a couple becomes the cause of pain, the story needs to be re-told. Nothing feels worse than the frustration, anger and disappointment of needing love and getting pain. The aim of couple therapy is to illuminate all and every one of these influences so that a negative narrative can be reviewed and communication improved.
“I came to Bárbara Godoy at the beginning of a life crisis as I had recently separated from my husband of 17 years. The sessions with him were extremely beneficial in dealing with weekly issues at a time when our communication was tense or non-existent. Barbara guided us through how to relate to each other in a new, kinder way and to begin a different, more positive dynamic in which to co-parent our three children while living apart. Bárbara has always been helpful in her mediation, able to see things from both viewpoints and build up a trust with both of us that has led to openness and honesty. I am eternally grateful for the benefits she has brought to my family at this trying time.” – Suzanna B., mother of three and trainee psychotherapist, UK.
“Any life, no matter how long and complex it may be, is made up of a single moment – the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is.” Jorge Luis Borges
Couple and Marriage Counselling: Psychotherapy, Counselling, Psychology and Coaching at London Harley Street